cyma
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Post by cyma on Aug 8, 2016 9:06:30 GMT -5
The respect word is being thrown around a lot lately that I'm feeling sorry for the poor word. Instead of asking myself the typical 'why' question: 'Why oh why don't people respect each other?' I found myself wondering, 'how'. How exactly can we respect each other and each other's opinions? Both in real-life and online life? What are the things we can do to improve ourselves, to be better when it comes to respecting people and their opinions? Especially opinion very different from ours? I've been taught in detail Maths, Accounting, Social Studies, English etc. but never anything related to respect. And if there was something, it was just a paragraph or a page long. That's it. Yet I notice that respect is as precious as money or health. Even more so. But all the learning came from observing people around me and sometimes I don't feel that's enough. Believe it or not, I had absolutely no idea that being on time was important outside of school too. Here nothing happens on time, whether it's a train, plane, wedding, doctor's appointment, college class, movie starting, everything is always thirty minutes or an hour late. Yet still being on time is expected at work  And I learned the importance of respecting other people's time. Anyways, I hope we can all take this as an opportunity and learn something valuable from each other  |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2016 14:06:33 GMT -5
As to the "why," Penny Arcade already summed it up quite well back in 2004: www.penny-arcade.com/comic/2004/03/19Anonymity does strange things to people. When your words and actions cannot be directly traced back to your real face and real name, you tend to do things and say things you wouldn't otherwise in RL. It's so easy to forget that there's an actual person with real feelings on the other side of a computer screen when all you know them by is an avatar and username. Maybe, we should start stepping back and asking ourselves "Would I say this in RL?" whenever we make a negative or critical post. If you wouldn't treat someone like that in RL, then you probably shouldn't do it online either. |
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Post by sol on Aug 24, 2016 0:44:51 GMT -5
Anonymity unchain people from the social obligation of good manners
If no one knows who you are, no one can judge you rude and many people live in fear of others' judgments
I don't care: anonymous or having business card, I'm me, anyway, I don't need or wish masks
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Post by Polarity on Aug 2, 2018 21:23:36 GMT -5
I have found this board to be pretty pleasant. Whenever I've read a post that someone else disagrees with, they tend to state their opinion nicely and without judgement. It's a nice thing to see. That's important in getting others to actually listen to what you have to say, and I think people have forgotten how to do that.
I mean, if someone came up to me and started yelling their view, I'm more likely to ignore them and not listen. If, however, they came up and nicely stated why they disagreed, while giving examples to me why they feel the way they did, I'm going to listen and try to look at it from their point of view. I think these days, people forget to actively listen and want so badly to have others see the world as they do, they forget to be pleasant.
However, like I said, this board seems to be a good example of how to discuss things pleasantly and get your view across without someone stating your opinion is "wrong". That's one thing I love about this place.
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Post by witch on Sept 1, 2021 10:10:15 GMT -5
In a lot of ways, I think it's fear. Fear of the unknown and people not wanting to learn or take on/open their minds to other's people opinions. For an example:
I myself had this issue with my mother's friends when they found out I was a witch, they being all Christian including herself. For a long time, even my mother was VERY closed off to the idea of learning anything about it (Hollywood NOT helping) but over time she at least opened up to the idea of learning more. I myself was raised Christian but Wicca was always around me and I branched out... learning as much as I could. Charmed helping in many ways.
I think a way to improve is NOT to shut anybody down agree or no. No two people are alike. I think the more we learn about each other (no matter the subject) the more we'll come to at least bridge some of the gaps.
My personal mind set is: DON'T close your mind set off to anything, for you never know what you might be missing.
Plus I LOVE learning about new things, meeting new people. It's like the saying "you can't judge a book by it's cover alone'
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Post by Emmett on Sept 1, 2021 20:21:36 GMT -5
You can civial conversations even if you have differing opinions, as long as you respect each other, and not troll and put someone down for not agreeing with someone elses views. Otherwise, just don't engage.
Being out of Charmed fandom for 15 years, I like this community, I haven't enjoyed some of the others, I browsed when looking for a place to talk about my renewed love of Charmed again, I find that Reddit community toxic, there's quite a number of trolls who can't have civial discussions, and seem to put people down for disagreeing with them.
You lot here seem like the friendliest Charmed community I've found.
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Post by Esmeralda on Sept 2, 2021 0:39:04 GMT -5
 Very glad that you newbies find us a friendly Charmed site despite all of the differing opinions - or maybe because of just that. I think that has a lot to do with our admin, Assassin Witch. If someone trolls and puts others down for not agreeing with their view, she'll warn them and then ban them and delete the offensive posts. I think the other reason is the use of ProBoard's Ignore function. If there's a member who looks at Charmed differently than you do (in most cases, that's they love a character you can't stand or they love magic and action while you love sisters who happen to be witches), and you don't want to read their posts any more, just put them on your Ignore list and you never have to read their posts again. I will never knock someone if they disagree with my opinion, as long as they don't knock me for disagreeing with theirs. Those members go straight to my own Ignore list. |
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Post by fallingsnow6136 on Sept 2, 2021 5:08:17 GMT -5
I think the key to respecting another person's opinion is knowing they grew up differently to you. That they have different experiences. For instance, my reason for Paige and Prue being my favourite characters is because like Paige, I grew up with an adoptive parent who was very loving and like Prue, I repress my own happiness at times to make other people happy. I love Phoebe a lot more now and can understand her more because I was also married to someone who tried to make me choose between him and my lovely mother and wanted to own me. Now for me I'm not saying everyone has personal reasons for liking something but most of my opinions are based on how I relate to something personally as opposed to how good the writing is.
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Post by Aaeiyn on Apr 9, 2022 6:54:48 GMT -5
I can respect opinions as long as it's made clear that it's an opinion and not someone trying to claim their opinion as a "fact". There's a difference between saying "I'm not a fan of this season" vs "this season is bad".
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Post by zoeysmom on May 7, 2022 18:03:35 GMT -5
Hmm. Interesting question. I guess take a minute to think if what you're about say is something you'd say to a friend where you don't have the kind of relationship where you cuss them out, or someone you liked but didn't know well. If you're calling someone stupid, cussing them out, etc. when you're online that's not not particularly respectful.
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Post by zoeysmom on May 7, 2022 18:05:06 GMT -5
I have found this board to be pretty pleasant. Whenever I've read a post that someone else disagrees with, they tend to state their opinion nicely and without judgement. It's a nice thing to see. That's important in getting others to actually listen to what you have to say, and I think people have forgotten how to do that. I mean, if someone came up to me and started yelling their view, I'm more likely to ignore them and not listen. If, however, they came up and nicely stated why they disagreed, while giving examples to me why they feel the way they did, I'm going to listen and try to look at it from their point of view. I think these days, people forget to actively listen and want so badly to have others see the world as they do, they forget to be pleasant. However, like I said, this board seems to be a good example of how to discuss things pleasantly and get your view across without someone stating your opinion is "wrong". That's one thing I love about this place. Agreed. I try to be respectful when I'm here. If someone says something I don't agree with or like, I generally just keep scrolling. |
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And I learned the importance of respecting other people's time.
Very glad that you newbies find us a friendly Charmed site despite all of the differing opinions - or maybe because of just that. I think that has a lot to do with our admin, Assassin Witch. If someone trolls and puts others down for not agreeing with their view, she'll warn them and then ban them and delete the offensive posts.
