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Post by Assassin Witch on Oct 25, 2009 10:39:29 GMT -5
Hey, everyone.
I'm taking a digital media class, and I'm doing an essay about message boards and how they impact you and your family's lives.
I was just wondering if I could get your opinion on the topic of message boards.
There are hundreds of different types of boards, The Charmed Cafe just being one example as an entetainment forum. People's time spent here ranges from lurking to once and a while to every day, every hour.
How has that impacted your life? How much of your life is consumed by message boards - not just the Internet. How has the effected your family life, friendships?
Do you see message boards as a positive or a negative? It's great to meet new people and chat about things with people all over the globe verses I'm here all the time and my family and friends things it's bad for my sanity and I need to move on.
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Post by ghostrider on Oct 25, 2009 12:03:57 GMT -5
Greetings Jackie (aka) AW. Sounds like a fascinating class. I think I'm seeing an A here. No brown noseing...just a statement of fact. Question...do we answer here on the thread, or through a private message?
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Post by Assassin Witch on Oct 25, 2009 14:32:49 GMT -5
Just post here. It's a general discussion, too. I do appreciate any input anyone has.  |
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Post by Astral Echo on Oct 25, 2009 20:29:00 GMT -5
Forums are brilliant for meeting new people, developing your skills, your opinion and sometimes learning something completely new. I have made so many fantastic friends over the years and while we may not be real life "close", I value them as friends nevertheless.
I've learnt alot about myself as I have been able to explore and express parts of myself that other people wouldn't usually see.
However I can see distancing yourself from life as a problem. I'm lucky as I've been able to find a balance, I have fantastic friends and a loving family but coming online, it's like having another set of friends and family. And I love it!
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Post by ghostrider on Oct 26, 2009 2:35:51 GMT -5
This is loaded topic, and one that we have explored from an addiction point of view. I don't think that is what you are looking for, so I will try to refrain from traveling in that direction.
Speaking only for myself and how I have been effected....well, I am not a good subject. Thought this is not the first Charmed board I have been on...Charmed is the only one I have ever gotten involved with. I have to admit that I have learned more about how I truly felt regarding various issues here, then I did in my living-room while watching it. That was a startling surprise. It is also a nice place to come to vent on episodes you either wanted to re-write on just erase from your memory.
I do enjoy exchanging thoughts about the show with others, but I know I will never get involved with another board. It is time consuming. I have let other things slide that I could be doing, but are not pressing. For example: I posted more before I started my new job. That of course is a have to do. We have a large home, property, animals, gardens and things that have to be done. But I don't have to sew that dress, make candles, read that book or watch a TV show. In short...some of the things I did before I joined the Cafe, I don't spend as much time on now. But that's a personal choice. Being on one board is enough for me. All I am doing is exchanging one out-let for another. But if I was on several....I would be in trouble. It is like drinking. A few drinks are fine. Killing the entire bottle is a bad idea.
I can't say that being here has effected my family or friends as I can't allow that to happen. I think I will call that discipline. But I have put aside some sleep, and posted later into the night than I should. Like now. This means I will be tired tomorrow. In a way that is a price to pay. Since there is only one computer in the home, often I can only get on late at night.
As for being positive or negative....I really think it depends on the person. But that is a cop-out and tells you nothing. So...if you put aside too much of what you should and need to do in order to chat with someone you will truly never really know...that is indeed a negative thing. We all need our little escape routes but too much for too long is too bad.
I think the end result is that the possibility for cyber chat leans more toward a negative side than a positive one. Though you might be talking, you are in a way still isolated and insulated from the real world.
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Post by pixiesunbelle on Dec 15, 2009 11:46:29 GMT -5
I don't have very many friends and often spend time by myself at my bf's house waiting for him to get home from work... lots of time to waste, lol.
Even when I did spend time at home, most of the time I spent it in my room. I don't enjoy sitting downstairs with my family... I never have. I always found it to be boring since they just watch the news.
Forums were always a good way for me to meet people because in real life most of the friends i meet eventually move or die.
A lot of my friends are met from a camp for kids with heart problems. This is something I was born with but I was a lucky one- lucky to be alive. With these friendships comes loss. Most of the time, I can only see these friends once a year.
Since graduating high school, most of my friends went all over the pace and we lost touch. To boot, most of them lived far away anyways since I attended a private school. Doing stuff after school/weekends was hard since I lived 25 minutes from school.
Several friends were church friends. Church was 15-20 minutes away, and of course since i was a kid I did not drive (still don't) and so seeing those friends was hard unless it was a church night. Most of those friends lived like 30-45 minutes away....
Now, those friends either moved or got lives of their own or got married.... so, i am left with no one except for my boyfriend.
I got on message boards to pass time. I can't find a job because there just isn't any. I look and find myself luckless. A balance never was because of the fact that I could not spend much time with my friends.
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Post by ~B@MeLiSsA30@B~ on Dec 16, 2009 0:36:30 GMT -5
I for one, am a very shy person. I am not one who likes hanging outside, and meeting people. It's hard to start conversations with a complete stranger! On here, I don't feel like I am being judged. I can take the time with my thoughts before I post. Unlike in real life, you can't exactly do that. Unless it's through text messaging. Also, I love talking about Charmed, and other Tv shows I love. I also love games. On the forum here, it's a great way to break the ice with other people all over the world. I've been on here almost 2yrs. I've been on other Charmed Forums, but I always stay on The Charmed Cafe. The place is great, and I've made a lot of friends along the way. Like Astral Echo said, they may not be close friends (in real life), but they are as close as a friend could be. You'll be sad if you don't hear from them, and if they are sick, or hurting, you feel for them. That is a real friend. No matter how often you see each other, or how far apart they are. My good friends on here. You know who you are. (Even though I like most people on here.)  |
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Post by pixiesunbelle on Jan 29, 2010 0:02:36 GMT -5
I for one, am a very shy person. I am not one who likes hanging outside, and meeting people. It's hard to start conversations with a complete stranger! On here, I don't feel like I am being judged. I can take the time with my thoughts before I post. Unlike in real life, you can't exactly do that. Unless it's through text messaging. Also, I love talking about Charmed, and other Tv shows I love. I also love games. On the forum here, it's a great way to break the ice with other people all over the world. I've been on here almost 2yrs. I've been on other Charmed Forums, but I always stay on The Charmed Cafe. The place is great, and I've made a lot of friends along the way. Like Astral Echo said, they may not be close friends (in real life), but they are as close as a friend could be. You'll be sad if you don't hear from them, and if they are sick, or hurting, you feel for them. That is a real friend. No matter how often you see each other, or how far apart they are. My good friends on here. You know who you are. (Even though I like most people on here.) That's how I feel. My best friend lives in California but he went to Germany to visit his girlfriend. I first met him on a message board which evolved into IM and then the phone. |
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